A Male Perspective

[Four women see a new store opening up and decide to check it out. It's called "The Man Store" and once inside women get to choose a man or move on to the next floor and see what awaits them there.

They all enter the elevator to go up a floor because on the first floor the men are just plain old nice guys, with average incomes, and they have never been married.

On the second floor, a sign reads, "This floor has men who are somewhat tall, average in weight, and divorced. They have decent jobs, but don't own a home."

The women decide to go on to the third floor, thinking these guys are losers.

On the third floor, a sign reads, "This floor has men who are tall, a little overweight but in good shape, and divorced. They have nice jobs, and drive a BMW."

The women decide to go on to the fourth floor, thinking they don't want to settle.

On the fourth floor, a sign reads, "This floor has men who are tall, great shape, and make about $100k. They have a nice home, are divorced and pay child support, and drive a Porsche."

The women look at each other and think, "There's still one more floor, we should check it out because it just keeps getting better and better!!". And they all agree not to settle for the men on the fourth floor.

On the fifth floor, there is a final sign which reads, "This floor has no men on it at all. We gave you every opportunity to meet a man and find happiness, but you were never satisfied and always wanted something better. That man doesn't exist, thanks for playing."]

I found this tonight and it made me start thinking. At first it was the typical cynicism. "Ain't that the truth. Women are always like that." But then I caught myself. It's not really like that.

But that doesn't change the fact that it can SEEM like that. Now I realize that seeing the world in this light means that the dude with this outlook has some issues to get over. Usually himself. But there are things that women do that aid in some guys seeing the world like this. One of those things: laughing at him. Not the cute, flirty laughing that you use when making eyes across a room, and not laughing at some witty comment he makes. But laughing at HIM. I know what it feels like to be laughed at. It's not a nice feeling at all.

Now I realize that sometimes signals aren't sent or received correctly and that can account for some of it. Just try to remember that Men are people too. They're human same as you. They have all the same emotions you have. The insecurity, the nervousness, the "WTF am I doing". And ALWAYS REMEMBER: no one is perfect.

And while we're on the subject, if the guy approaches you and you have no interest, tell him. Just say, "sorry I'm not into you that way". It's just as awkward for both parties so just be honest right off the bat.